‘NCIS: Hawai’i’ Star Vanessa Lachey Opens Up About Rocky Childhood

by Chase Thomas
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Vanessa Lachey, star of NCIS: Hawai’i opened up in a major way today. Lachey, the wife of former 98 Degrees star Nick Lachey, talked about a myriad of topics, some of which were deeply personal and very brave.

One subject that came up in the interview was her childhood. It was tough for Lachey. A lot happened that shaped her worldview.

Lachey said, “My mother leaving me was really tough, for obvious reasons. She left when I was around 9. And adolescence was hard. I had a stepmom who didn’t want children. But what I realized when I got older was that it strengthened me, and it made me who I am, in all the best ways.”

While it was obviously a very difficult situation for Lachey to grow up under these sorts of circumstances, she talks about how she made the most of it. She found a positive angle on the difficult situation and how they made her stronger and who she is today, the star of NCIS: Hawai’i.

She continued to She Knows, “It’s made me love my kids harder. It’s made me fight for things for. It’s made me not want to give up on them or me, so for sure it’s defined me.” The impact of her mother leaving and dealing with a stepmom who she says did not want children is still seen today. In her estimation. So, her relationship with her kids and her career is forever changed because of those early experiences.

Vanessa Lachey’s New Book

This al leads into subjects Lachey covers in her new book. The book is about family, her experiences, and traditions.

The importance of traditions and sticking to them in parenthood. Lachey said of the importance of traditions in her family, “No matter where we are in the country or in the world, if we have these moments and memories and traditions, then that’s our foundation. That’s what grounds us. That’s our family tradition — something for the kids to look forward to.”

It’s all about prioritizing what’s most important for you and your family. That’s what Lachey does here. We all have choices to make. It all comes back to her childhood and how that informed her decisions as an adult and as a parent.

She concludes, “I think the beauty of the book is that even though my parents weren’t together growing up — my mom left when I was pretty young — I wanted to create traditions and memories and moments for my family. I think that the overall message is that your messy past doesn’t have to define your future or whatever future you want. You can do anything, and it’s never too late.”

Not letting your past define you. That’s the message Lachey is giving with his book from the above quotes. Her book intends to inspire and help others. That is the goal.

You can watch NCIS: Hawai’i on CBS.