‘Blue Bloods’: Here’s Why Tom Selleck Says His Own Family Dinners Are a ‘Big Deal’

by Josh Lanier

Blue Bloods‘ patriarch Tom Selleck said he treats big family meals much like the Reagan family does on the show. He thinks they’re a big deal, saying he’ll take a big family meal over a big gift anytime.

Selleck opened up about his love of family gathering with Rachel Ray on her show last year when the topic of how he spent his 76th birthday came up. He, sadly, spent it on a plane enjoying airline food on a trip home to his California ranch.

Selleck said he didn’t mind, as he doesn’t put much stock into birthday celebrations. Well, only if they involve large family gatherings, he told Ray.

“I mean my idea of a big deal is dinner with my brother and sister, and whatever family you can get together — my son … my daughter,” the Blue Bloods star said. “Being quiet and with the people you care about.”

Ray agreed, saying she also “rolls the same.”

And if by some chance you are invited to one of Selleck’s dinners, don’t bring a gift. He doesn’t like them. He says it’s awkward, but he does like cards, things with personal touches.

“There’s no reason to buy stuff,” he said. “I got a lot of stuff.”

Tom Selleck’s Massive Ranch Built for Big Dinners

Tom Selleck has lived in the same massive 65-acre ranch in Ventura, California since Magnum, P.I. ended. Selleck bought the property that once belonged to Dean Martin in 1988 for $5 million.

Selleck said he chose the home, particularly because it was tucked away. He told People magazine that he prefers his privacy and time with his family.

“I’m a fairly private person,” the actor, 76, said. “And I’ve always treasured the balance between work and time with my family. It’s always about them.”

He said the privacy and his family keep him grounded from the non-stop nature of Hollywood.

“My relationships and my ranch keep me sane,” he told People last year.

When he’s not entertaining his adult children or other members of his family, he’s either flying to New York to work on Blue Bloods or working on the ranch.

He said he enjoys the “grunt work” because it’s a “great counterpoint to the acting business, which is an abstraction — you do something, it’s up on a piece of film, and everybody argues whether it’s good or bad,” he told Closer Weekly. “[On the ranch], you dig a hole and plant an oak tree — and I’ve probably planted a thousand of them — it’s real. It’s there, and you can watch it grow.”