Valerie Bertinelli Reveals How She Got Rid of ‘The Mindset That Made Me Feel Broken’ in New Book

by Josh Lanier
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Valerie Bertinelli said she struggled with depression and feelings of inadequacy as she aged. But when she found an old family recipe book she told herself “Enough already!”

She said it reminded her that she comes from a long line of strong women. That was the beginning of her journey of self-acceptance, Valerie Bertinelli told PEOPLE magazine. She wrote about that journey in her new book. It’s aptly titled Enough Already: Learning to Love the Way I Am Today. It comes out in January.

The Food Network star told PEOPLE that the book is about letting go of negativity. And then working toward a better, healthier mindset. She said it is “the most personal, intimate writing I’ve done.”

“I explore the things that I have gone through and continue to deal with in getting to where I am today. … My relationship to food, being a mom, mid-life career changes, aging parents, saying goodbye to loved ones, and asking why the hell have I been so hard on myself for so long,” she said in her statement to the magazine.

“I cover a lot, but ultimately it’s about growing older, with the emphasis on growth, learning lessons, and reminding myself — and hopefully those who read the book — that life is a gift and too short to waste.”

The book’s description says that Valerie Bertinelli learned after her mother’s death that perfection shouldn’t be the goal. “It’s the joy we can find every day in our lives, our loved ones, and the food we share. Recipes and advice will be sprinkled throughout the book.”

Bertinelli has been open with her struggles with her weight in the past.

Valerie Bertinelli’s Son Comes to Her Defense

Earlier this month, Valerie Bertinelli posted an emotional video after being body-shamed by an internet troll.

Someone posted on one of her Instagram posts that she needed to lose weight. She made a tearful video reply where she told that person, “You’re not being helpful,” if that was their goal in the first place. “When you see someone who has put some weight on, my first thought is that person is going through some things. Because if I could lose the weight and keep it off, I would.”

But her son, Wolf Van Halen, stood up for his mom in the comments.

“You’re perfect the way you are, Ma,” he wrote. “I love you (also for no particular reason, what was that f–ker’s @ so I can harass them with memes?)”

Valerie Bertinelli said she had intended to delete the Instagram story where she received the never comment. But then she started to get messages from people who were also struggling with their weight.

“I was going to delete my stories because it’s a little embarrassing and scary to be so vulnerable,” she wrote in the caption. “But then I realized it was hitting a ‘good’ nerve with so many of you who were so sweet to dm and share your same vulnerability and struggles. We all could use a little more kindness and patience and grace because we just never know what someone else is going through. So here it is. Not deleting. Owning it.”